Have you ever noticed how much happier you are in your relationship when you feel appreciated by your partner? Research has found that expressing gratitude increases satisfaction in our relationships while also intensifying the feeling of being connected. Gratitude not only improves satisfaction for the person receiving the appreciation but also for the person expressing it!
Even if you and your partner are not used to expressing appreciation to each other, don’t worry, you’re not doomed! There are plenty of ways to bring gratitude into your daily lives. And the best part is, they don’t cost a thing!
- Say Thank You. Take time to thank your partner because they care, not because it’s their “job”. Many times, everyday monotony can strip some of the lustre from life. You may find yourself taking your mate for granted for the simple things, like taking the trash out. Instead, practice thanking them for the day-to-day chores they do. From doing the dishes to buying groceries. Let your partner know how much you appreciate the care they put into even the smallest duties.
- Use Eye Contact. When your partner is talking or showing you something, stop what you’re doing and give them your full attention. Even if you’re in the middle of a terrific article you’ve been waiting all day to read- giving your partner your full attention shows them how much you value their presence in your life.
- Appreciate the Effort. Sometimes we get so caught up in getting it done and doing it right, that we forget to thank our partners for their effort. Even when your partner is unable to meet your expectations, thank them for their time and for trying. Maybe they forgot something you needed off the grocery list, instead of getting upset, use that moment to sincerely thank them for going to the market.
- Look For the Positives. When your partner calls to let you know they are running late or have to cancel your weekend hike because they are working overtime, take a moment to look onto the bright side. Let them know you appreciate their hard work. Use the opportunity to boost your partner’s morale and let them know it’s not a big deal.
- Praise Your Partner. In any healthy relationship, expressing gratitude should be consistent and sincere. Use praise both privately and publicly. Share with your partner how much you appreciate what they contribute to your relationship.
- The Power of Touch. When it comes to expressing appreciation you can never go wrong with a warm embrace, or a sweet caress. Did your partner have a hard day? Why not give them a back or foot rub? The power of touch can do wonders when words sometimes fail.
- Give from the Heart. Say thank you with a gift for your mate. There’s no need for extravagance. Why not pick up a card next time you’re at the grocery store or flowers? Or plan a date night to your partner’s favorite restaurant. When it comes to thank you’s, saying it from the heart is always your best bet.