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Setting healthy boundaries means telling people what we expect from them and what they can expect from us. They also remind us to respect our own limits. Boundaries are like fences for people; healthy boundaries enable us to maintain a sense of comfort and privacy in our relationships. We set boundaries for ourselves to let others know how to interact with us and vice versa, we respect the boundaries set by others.

 

When setting boundaries, remember that it will take time to adjust, not just for those around but for yourself as well. It’s like a muscle that needs to be strengthened by consistent exercise. 

Frequently Asked Questions About Boundaries

Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships.
Ask yourself the following questions:
 
  • Do you ever feel like people take advantage of you or use your emotions for their own gain?
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  • Do you ever feel like you’re constantly having to “save” people close to you and fix their problems all the time?
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  • Do you find yourself sucked into pointless fighting or debating regularly?
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  • In your relationships, does it feel like things are always either amazing or horrible with no in-between? 
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  • Do you tell people how much you hate drama but seem to always be stuck in the middle of it?
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If you answered “yes” to even a few of the above, then you might need to work on your boundaries in your relationships. 

 

Below we’ve listed some ways you can start setting healthy boundaries today.

  • Be clear in your speech.
  • Explain what you mean and why.
  • Ask questions so you can fully understand what the other person wants.
  • Give choices.
  • Encourage situations to be handled without your help.
  • Be clear on consequences if rules are broken.
  • And most importantly, ask yourself: “Is this working for me?

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